Ah, getting a girl’s number! One of the oldest tricks in the book, every guy in the world has tried to get a girl’s number at one time in his life. There have been countless conversations in bars between guys trying to do it and countless dollars spent by frustrated men looking for how to do it. Luckily, all of the information you will ever need to know to get a girl’s number is in this step-by-step guide, for free! We’ve done the work for you and separated it into five easy steps that will work for anyone. Getting a girl’s number is just the first step out of many on the road to a successful hook-up or relationship, though, but it all starts here. You’ve got to walk before you can run and you’ve got to know how to approach and get a number before you get laid. Learn the basics here and reap the rewards later!
- Set Yourself Straight
There is an old saying that goes, “Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.” Set yourself up for success and don’t fall behind before you even start talking to the girls. The most important thing for you to have straight is your mindset. You can’t fake this part, as it shows in your actions. Don’t try and think like an alpha male, be an alpha male! Assume that the girl wants you more than anything and that she’s begging you to approach. Secondly, have fun and enjoy yourself! If you’re stressed, you will never succeed. Don’t be focused on whether or not she will like you, focus on whether or not you will like her! Putting her on a pedestal in your mind will give yourself a huge mental roadblock before you even begin talking to her. If she knows that you’re obsessing over her, she’ll figure that if she can get you drooling over her, she can at least get someone much better interested! Place value on yourself above everything else, for you are the important one. There are millions of women out there better than the one you’re going to talk to, but there will only ever be one you! You should be the one on your pedestal, not her. Once you have your mind right and are ready to have fun, you’ve got all the tools you need for a successful approach!
Always look your best and feel your best. You can’t change your natural appearance, and that doesn’t matter. Work with what you have, because you can clean yourself up and dress nicely. When you look your best, you feel your best. Positive energy is the most important ingredient of a pick-up, so help yourself all you can!
This is the time for action! Contrary to popular belief, the pick-up starts before you ever approach a woman. When you first spot an attractive woman on adultfrinendfinder, you shouldn’t wait to make your move. When you’re first starting out, it’s best to use the “three second rule,” and approach within three seconds of spotting the hottie you’re going to snag. This gives you no time to talk yourself out of the approach and makes it spontaneous, a necessary ingredient for meeting women. Don’t be the guy who follows her around store after store in the mall for three hours, this will only get you picked-up on her creep radar!
It all begins when you spot the woman. When you see her, start warming her up to your approach immediately! The two most important things to do in this stage are to smile and make eye contact! When someone smiles at you, you hardly ever fail to smile back. A smile always makes anyone’s day better, so give her a grin! This breaks the ice perfectly and she is naturally inclined to respond positively to you. While you’re smiling, be sure and make eye contact with the girl of your choice. If she holds the eye contact, it’s a sure sign that she is interested! Not making eye contact before (and during) your approach is a sign of insecurity. Own the set and take what’s yours!
Once you’ve successfully broken the non-verbal ice, it’s time to finally approach. This is where almost all men have a horrible time and make most of their mistakes. Guys come to websites by the millions every day looking for the one “Holy Grail” opener that will melt any woman’s heart and panties the instant you meet them. Needless to say, they’re only wasting their time and setting themselves up for disappointment, because they don’t know a big secret. As a matter of fact, we’ll even let you in on this secret: the opener you use doesn’t matter at all! Over 90% of communication is non-verbal, your body language, the way you say things, and the confidence behind the words you speak are infinitely more important than the words themselves. The only purpose of an opener is to get your foot into the door and start a conversation. As far as I’m concerned, there are only two openers, ones that get you into a conversation and ones that don’t. Don’t use a corny pick-up line, keep things simple! There is no opener that will win you a girl by itself, but stupid things get you blown out immediately. Walk confidently, speak loudly, and game with conviction! This will get you farther than any line in the history of the universe. Use a time constraint when you begin talking to the girl, as you don’t want her to think that you’re going to hang around bugging her forever (there’s an example of this below).